Claiming Your Sexual Sovereignty

Claiming Your Sexual Sovereignty

No one can own someone else’s sexuality. You, alone, have complete sovereignty over your’s, and we must always honor the sexual sovereignty of another…….regardless of whether we are in intimate relationship with that person. Just as kings and queens rule their domains we have jurisdiction over who we allow into our intimate world. Two or more people can make agreements around their sexual behavior, regardless of those commitments, no one own another’s sexuality. Honoring the sexual sovereignty of all, and particularly your lover, allow for the trust and safety required to go deep into relationship. Without that trust and safety, one or both parties to the relationship will hold back either physically and/or emotionally. With the respect, trust and safety in place, two and go very deeply together, touch places that allow us to open and grow in way unavailable to the soloist. This is why in Tantric Buddhism, consort practice is considered the most powerful and profound path to touch enlightenment. Artwork by Anna...

The Dance of Intimacy

The alpha and omega of sexual intimacy are both safety.     She needs to feel physically safe in order to open.   He needs to feel emotionally safe in order to be vulnerable.    Those two are the basic ingredients of intimacy. If you want to learn about who to create and deepening intimacy, which start with you, contact one of our coaches for a 20 minute free session at...

A very sad day

It was with sadness that I learned about the shootings and death of 50 or more innocent people in Orlando.    The fact that an LGBT social setting was the target of the attacks, makes this clearly a hate crime. Our sympathies are with the family and friends of those who where killed, hurt or otherwise impacted by this senseless...

Remembering our Veterans

Two of the most import things we can do this Memorial Day weekend is to take a moment remember the service of our fallen military members and to thank and to thank a veteran and their family.     The recent demands place on our military as been extraordinary.    Among our return veterans PTSD, depression , physical injury, and sexual dysfunction are common.    As a society are responsible to help our vets and their family regain wholeness. As a veteran myself, I hold a special place in my heart for both active duty military members and veterans. I served in the U.S. Marine Corps as a Reconnaissance Platoon Commander with the Third Marine Division. In addition to being a Marine, I had the honor of training along side Navy Seals, Airborne Soldiers and members of the USAF.  Through this background I have gained deep insight into the challenges of veterans as they relate to sexuality.  If you are a veteran, be sure to indicate that on your sign-up sheet and you will be moved to the ‘front of the line’ in signing up for our SexCoaching...
Erotic Skills and Knowledge

Erotic Skills and Knowledge

Growing up, most of us did not get accurate and useful information about sex from families, schools and well-meaning friends. That was certainly the case for me growing up in the 1960’s and 70’s in St. Louis, Missouri.  The primary instruction I received was that sex is dangerous and should be saved for marriage. However, I in my teens I had so much sexual energy running that wanted to learn and experiment, but I did not know how.  As a result I very conflicted as confused.  Many of the clients I coach have had similar experiences. Fortunately, as adults today, there are many, many resources available to learn about sex and acquire erotic skill and knowledge to enhance our love lives. Part of the challenge to day is data over-load and conflicting information.  At SexCoaching.com we provide accurate and useful information everything from sexual anatomy to the most advanced. Living your erotic potential beings with good knowledge and skills. What are some of the things you were taught about sex when you were growing up?  Please post your comments...