Ilil

ILIL is a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach and SSEAA Accredited Sexological Bodyworker, based in Wellington and Nelson, New Zealand. She helps individuals and partners to have more fulfilling sex lives, intimacy, and relationships.

Whether you’re facing a specific sexual challenge, want to deepen intimacy with your partner, or simply want to develop your lovemaking skills, Ilil is able to guide you with compassion and care. As a warm, attuned, and deeply empathetic person, she shows up as her authentic self in every session and creates a professional, encouraging atmosphere. 

Ilil specializes in somatic sexology and couples’ intimacy and is able to assist clients with: 

• Sexual dysfunctions (difficulty orgasming, painful sex, erectile dysfunction, early/delayed ejaculation) 
• Low libido, couples mismatched desire, sexless relationships 
• Develop a thriving relationship (build secure attachment, resolve underlying resentment/tension, communication skills, navigate needs, capacities and boundaries, rebuild trust) 
• Confidence, body shame, performance anxiety and other limiting inhibitions.
• Finding intimacy post childbirth or other major life changes 
• Get to know what turns you on and off
• Explore fantasies, BDSM and kink 
• Navigate non-monogamy and other relationship structures 

Ilil has been passionate about these topics since a young age, but they didn’t come easy for her. Negative sexual experiences early on in her life impacted her ability to feel safety, pleasure, and connection with a partner. She struggled with orgasms, felt out of touch with her body, and voiceless in intimate relationships. But with the support of a sexological bodyworker and intimacy coach, she restored her natural deliciousness and capacity for pleasure and loving connection. She finally learned to stop ‘performing’ pleasure and actually feel it. 

Her personal journey naturally evolved into a professional one. Since experiencing the radically transformative power of somatic sexology in her own life, she has devoted herself to sharing this knowledge and helping others on their own path to sexual fulfilment.

Ilil offers sessions worldwide via Zoom, and in-person in Wellington and Nelson, New Zealand.